Discussion Guide: Die for You

1. Why does Die for You open with the scene in Prague? Does knowing how Isabel’s investigation ends affect your reactions to the decisions she makes as the novel unfolds? Does it add to or lessen the suspense and/or the power of the climatic scene that comes near the end of the book?

2. Compare Marcus’s reminiscences of falling in love with Isabel and the regrets he feels as he contemplates their marriage [p. 6] with Isabel’s memories and musings [p. 30]. To what extent do these passages reflect their individual personalities and the differences between the way men and women think about romance and marriage?

3. After their conversations about Marcus’s affair Isabel says, “Those problems we agreed existed . . . . were never actually addressed” [p. 27]. Are Isabel’s explanations of why she avoided bringing the subject up again and for keeping the affair a secret from those closest to her understandable?

4. Die for You contains numerous statements about how novelists experience the world. Isabel says, “Strictly by my estimate, the fiction writer notices approximately fifty percent more details than other people. . . . . This happens in a millisecond and I’m only barely conscious of it” [p. 59]. And Linda, thinking about her sister, says, “It was the curse of the writer, a feral hunger to understand and by understanding to control” [p. 98]. Are these observations, as well as Isabel’s description of her reaction to Marcus’s proposal [p. 66], their discussion about language [p. 131], and other comments throughout the novel, apt descriptions of the writer’s art? How do they relate to Unger’s writing techniques and style?

5. There are also insights into the photographer’s art [pp. 99, 102]. How does Linda’s work as a photographer and painter influence her perceptions of her family, her affair with Benjamin, and initial reaction to Marcus [p. 102-3]? What impact do the ways the sisters engage with people and view events have on your impressions of them? What are the strengths and the flaws of each approach?

6. Linda remembers “their father’s favorite proud refrain: ‘The Connelly sisters are lovely and smart.’ There wasn’t a brighter one or a prettier one. Linda and Isabel had never felt the urge to compete with each other in those arenas” [p. 101]. Have the choices they’ve made as adults changed their relationship, causing resentments and conflicts? What aspects of Linda’s life does Isabel envy? Do Linda’s thoughts about marriage and motherhood and her life as an artist [p. 116] suggest that she is also envious of her sister?

7. “Suicide marks you in a way that no other tragedy does—especially the suicide of a parent” [p. 107]. Is grief over a suicide different from other kinds of grief? How honestly do Isabel, Linda, and their mother, Margie, deal with the sense of abandonment, sadness, rage, and shame they feel? What explains Linda’s hostility toward her mother and her angry reaction to Margie’s announcement that she is getting remarried [p. 129-130]?  Why is Isabel more accepting of her mother’s behavior? In what ways does their father’s death shape the way his daughters think about men and marriage?

8. “She'd done the same with Erik, put her signature where her husband asked. Two smart women who knew better, who should have learned earlier, the hard way, not to surrender our power,” [p. 141]. Is this common among educated women today, and if so, why?

9. Discuss the conversation Isabel and Detective Crowe have about infidelity [p. 131-132] and Linda’s feelings about her affair [p. 147]. Whose point of view do you think is most realistic? Is Isabel right in saying that Crowe “still believed in fairy tales”? Is this also true of Linda? What do Linda’s reasons for having an affair, as well as her reaction to Erik’s “financial” infidelity [p. 220] reveal about her and her marriage?

10. Do the relationships between Linda and Erik, and Crowe and his ex-wife confirm Isabel’s reflection that “Love accepts, moves forward” [p. 133]? After she learns the full extent of Marcus’s deception, Isabel says “maybe, in my case, love accepts too much, wants to live so badly that it creates what it needs to survive” [p. 210]. Can you think of other examples in the book, in other novels, or in real life that represent this kind of love?

11. How does Unger bring to life the different aspects of Marcus’s character? What does she achieve by alternating between Isabel’s voice and a third-person narrator? Does Marcus have genuine feelings for Isabel or for other people he knows? What incidents support your answer? Do his childhood and the ties he has with his brother explain his behavior? Do they make him a more sympathetic character?

12. On several occasions, Isabel questions herself about missing the signs that Marcus was not the person he appeared to be [pp. 159, 182, 192, 275]. Is she naïve, or, as she later says to Erik, “guilty, like any wife who is guilty for ignoring all the signs, all her instincts” [p. 253]?

13. How is Jack different from the other men in Isabel’s life?  What is it about Jack that eventually brings them together?

14. Isabel's quest to find and confront Marcus puts her and her family and friends in danger. Does her need to discover the truth justify the risks she takes?

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