In the royal ranks of the Sweet Potato Queens, there have been more weddings and divorces than you can shake a scepter at. So the Queens are bona fide experts when it comes to planning a marriage and ending one, and they do solemnly swear that both can be joyous occasions when approached the right way. And here’s how, from appropriate games, entertainment, and snacks for queenly wedding and divorce showers to advice on sending out announcements about changes in marital status—in either direction. Plus you’ll find wild stories from the Queens and their devoted fans about weddings gone wrong, divorces gone right, and how love is even better the second, third, or fourth time around.